“Simply put, effective communication is the extent to which a message is interpreted by its recipient with the intended meaning from the sender. Communication is more effective when both the sender and receiver use the same frames of reference. However in intercultural communication this is often untrue and interactions with strangers can in turn prove more difficult.

When people communicate mindlessly, they tend to utilize broad categories and stereotypes to predict behavior. As mindfulness increases, the categories become more specific and typically more accurate predictors. Since being mindful makes us open to more information we are more likely to correctly identify the receiver’s frame of interpretation.”

Isn’t it great when something has a label? When there is actually a word for it?

Mindful Communication!

Wow. I know!

By being aware of your own communication, by being aware of the responses from your conversation partner, by being educated in other world views then your own, your communication will become awesome!

And how can you start?

Kimberly Wiefling wrote a fabulous blog post yesterday. She explains how she is trying to become more aware of her own communication.

“.. understanding the importance of good communication skills and positive relationships to project success, I’ve decided to recommit myself to improving my relationships through improved communication skills.”

That is some great advice!

Image by emilio labrador.

Bas de Baar helps people find ways to enjoy the diversity of human interaction in their organizations so that they can get out of their own way and achieve their goals. - Mindful Communication: The Key To Becoming An Effective Project Leader is a post from: Project Shrink.

Photography by Angela7Dreams.

To cope with the environment you need a brain that can use many mental models to look at reality. You need to be able to throw away your pre-programmed belief and adopt a different mindset in the blink of an eye.

The first part of becoming a flexible Project Manager therefor starts within the comfort of your own head. In this post I will outline the three steps that should guide your journey. In the next period each step will be explained in more detail.

These steps are similar to Emotional Intelligence, however in this context it mostly relates to the actions you perform with the project.

Self-Aware

The first step is to become aware of why you do what you do. Do you perform tasks because you are expected to do so, or do they really solve a problem or mitigate a risk? Are you aware of why you have organized the project in a certain way? Do you know the benefits and drawbacks of every procedure you installed in your team?

Emphatic

After becoming self-aware you can start guessing why others are doing what they are doing. First you guess, later you ask. This is the same process to become self-aware, only this time you adopt different assumptions, take on a believe system that is not your own.

If you are used to run a country and you have a communist background, you probably are trying to regulate, centralize and formalize as much as possible. You want to control every individual behavior in order to control the whole system. When you are raised with a more laissez-faire world view, you can adopt a reign that is totally governed by the free market. Nothing is centrally controlled, everything will take care of itself. If you run one country, to become more emphatic, you will use the other mindset for a while.

This is the step where it is time you read up on your psychology and sociology knowledge. This is were you defend the agile method point of view when you are a die-hard PMP.

Holistic

Free at last. Free at last.

In this final stage you are able to use all kind of mental models. You are aware of what triggers what. You can mix and match from different world views. You use an Agile planing within a Prince 2 organization. And you know why you use it! You get to know how to look at dynamic-complexity without getting into a spasm. You come up with all new kind of weird mental models (like a Fish Pond – eek).

This is the step where I get my little brass gong out again… You are one! Ahum!

Bas de Baar helps people find ways to enjoy the diversity of human interaction in their organizations so that they can get out of their own way and achieve their goals. - 3 Steps Towards Becoming An Agile Project Manager is a post from: Project Shrink.